Most couples who get married expect that their marriage will last but fact is that half of all marriages don’t. So the eternal question becomes–What is the magic key to a lasting relationship or marriage?
One of the “keys,” according to a new study by Evelyn Lehrer, an economist at University of Illinois at Chicago, is that women are waiting longer to get married. The median marrying age for women has risen from 20 in the 1950s to 26 in 2005.
While we don’t know for sure the “why” this is happening Touches Place in Communication, we can offer some ideas that will help you create a marriage that is not only long-lasting but also one that is filled with passion, love and connection.
If women are waiting longer to get married, they know more of what they want in their lives and the kind of partners that they want to spend it with when they have had some experience and a few years under their belts.
Whether you are currently married or single–female or male–think back to when you were 20 years old. Did you know what you wanted? Did you have a clearer picture when you were a bit older and wiser?
While you can’t go backwards in time and change the course of your life and the decisions that you made, you can decide what you want right now in your life and not “settle” for what you don’t want.
There’s always some step you can take toward creating more of what you want in your life. You can recognize what this step is by first getting to know yourself a little better.
One way to do this is by stopping your busy life, turning down the outside “noise” for even a moment or two, and “tuning” into your inner being.
If all of this sounds mystical, not practical and something that might be nice but you don’t have the time to do it–you might want to reconsider.
It can only take a few moments to turn down the outside noise by breathing deeply and focusing your attention inside of you. When you do, you are able to identify what you are feeling in the moment. You can put a label on the feeling and get a knowing of what you want.
When you do that, you are able speak more clearly to the important people in your life and you can ask for what you want with more clarity and more passion.
Whether it’s a lasting marriage or relationship that you want or something else, we suggest that you get to know yourself better so that you can move confidently toward what brings you the most joy.
